Relationship Therapist · Couples & Individual Work
When insight
isn’t enough.
You might understand exactly why you feel the way you do and you might have talked about it at length – yet still something hasn’t shifted.
That’s not a failure of insight. Understanding something and being able to change it are often two very different things.
I’m Amanda Greenlees, a London-based psychotherapist with a focus on relationship psychotherapy. I work with couples and individuals, online and in-person, on the patterns that shape how we relate, to others and to ourselves. Where it’s helpful, I draw on EMDR and body-based approaches to support change that goes deeper than insight alone.
“This is active, engaged therapy. I won’t just listen and nod. I’ll work with you closely, curiously, and with real skill to help you bridge the gap between what you know in your head and what you actually feel and do.”
What makes this different
Most of us know, at least partly, what we want to change. The harder question is why we can’t, and that’s rarely answered by thinking alone.
Many of the patterns that keep us stuck weren’t chosen. They were formed early, in the relationships that shaped us, and they live in us in ways we often don’t notice: the tightness we feel when conflict arises, the urge to withdraw when we feel unheard, the self-criticisms we learned to direct at ourselves before someone else could.
I work with your whole experience: thoughts, feelings, physical responses, and the relational history beneath them. When we attend to all of this together, something that felt fixed can begin to move.
What i offer
Much of what brings people to therapy comes back to the same territory: how we learned to relate to others, and how we learned to treat ourselves. Rooted in the past, these patterns shape the way we see ourselves and others in the present. That is where we begin.
– Relationship & Couples Therapy
For couples caught up in painful cycles they can’t shift alone – the same arguments that go nowhere, the growing distance, the sense of being alone even when you’re together. We explore what’s happening beneath the surface in moments of tension, distance, or disconnection so you can respond differently rather than repeating the same patterns.
– Individual relational work
Exploring your relationship with yourself and others: the beliefs you carry about whether you’re loveable, whether closeness is safe, whether you’re enough. Often these patterns have roots in early experience and show up across every relationship you have.
– EMDR and somatic approaches
For when understanding hasn’t been quite enough and something needs to shift at a deeper level than talk alone can reach. I draw on EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and Hakomi – approaches that work with the nervous system and the beliefs held in the body, not just the thinking mind.
How I work
We all have patterns, ways of reacting, relating, and responding to ourselves and others, that show up not just in thought but in the body. A tightening in the chest. An urge to withdraw. A familiar sense of dread before a difficult conversation.
In therapy, we pay attention to all of it. This often leads to deeper, more lasting change than insight alone.
I work with clients both online and in person at my practice in London.
Ready to find out more?
The first step is a consultation session. No obligation, just a chance to see if working together feels right.