When insight isn’t enough.
You might understand exactly why you feel the way you do and you might have talked about it at length – yet still something hasn’t shifted.
That’s not a failure of insight. Understanding something and being able to change it are often two very different things.
I’m Amanda Greenlees, a London-based psychotherapist with a focus on relationship psychotherapy. I work with couples and individuals, online and in-person, on the patterns that shape how we relate, to others and to ourselves. Where it’s helpful, I draw on EMDR and body-based approaches to support change that goes deeper than insight alone.
“This is active, engaged therapy. I won’t just listen and nod. I’ll work with you closely, curiously, and with real skill to help you bridge the gap between what you know in your head and what you actually feel and do.”
What makes this different
Most of us know, at least partly, what we want to change. The harder question is why we can’t, and that’s rarely answered by thinking alone.
I work with your whole experience – not just the thoughts you’re having but also the familiar reactions, feelings, and habits that show up alongside them. When we pay attention to all of this together, we can really understand what’s happening and begin to shift it. With couples and individuals exploring their relational patterns, this includes looking at the dynamics you get caught in, how you communicate, and how you connect.
What we might work on
Many of my clients come to me with one or more of the following:
- Relationship therapy – for couples and individuals caught in patterns they can’t shift alone. We explore what’s happening beneath the surface in moments of tension, distance, or disconnection, and find new ways of relating and connecting.
- Individual relational work – exploring your relationship with yourself and others: the beliefs you carry about whether you’re loveable, whether closeness is safe, whether you’re enough. Often these patterns have roots in early experience and show up across every relationship you have.
- EMDR and somatic approaches – for times when understanding hasn’t been quite enough, and something needs to shift at a deeper level than talk alone can reach.
How I work
We all have patterns – ways of thinking, reacting and relating to ourselves and others – that show up in how we feel and respond physically, such as a tightness in the chest when we feel anxious or an urge to withdraw when a situation feel confrontational.
In therapy, we pay attention to both your mind and body because noticing how thoughts and these physical reactions interact helps you work with habits and patterns more fully. I draw on EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and Hakomi, approaches that include the body and nervous system alongside the thinking mind, not instead of it. This often leads to deeper, more lasting change than focusing on thoughts alone.
Ready to find out more?
If this sounds like the kind of work you’re looking for, the first step is a consultation session. No obligation, just a chance to see if working together feels right.