individual therapy
Therapy that actually moves something.
Most people I work with already have insight. They know their patterns, they understand their history. What’s missing is the bridge between what they know and what they actually feel and do.
This is where we work.
My approach
I offer in-depth individual therapy for people who want to understand and shift the patterns shaping their relationships, with others and with themselves.
Often these patterns have long roots. The beliefs we carry about whether we’re loveable, whether closeness is safe, whether we’re fundamentally enough – these aren’t usually formed in adulthood. They develop early, through the relationships that shaped us, and they become so familiar that we stop noticing them. They show up in who we’re drawn to, how we handle conflict, what we do when we feel hurt or unseen, how we speak to ourselves when things go wrong.
Insight into all of this is valuable, but it rarely shifts things on its own. That’s because our beliefs aren’t just held in thought – they live in the body, in automatic responses, in the things we do before we’ve had a chance to choose differently.
My approach works on both levels at once. We think together about what’s happening – the patterns, the history, the beliefs underneath. At the same time, we pay close attention to what’s happening in your body as we do that. Often it’s the moment those two things connect that something genuinely shifts.
Alongside talk therapy, I draw on EMDR, Sensorimotor Psychotherapy, and Hakomi – approaches that work with the nervous system, the body, and the core beliefs formed through early relational experience. This isn’t about bypassing the thinking mind. It’s about working with the whole of you.
This is active, engaged therapy. I won’t just listen and nod.
What I can help with
Many of my clients come with one or more of the following. This isn’t a complete list, so if something feels relevant but isn’t here, please get in touch.
Relational patterns
The dynamics that repeat across relationships. Difficulty with closeness or commitment. Giving a great deal and feeling unseen. Losing yourself in relationships, or keeping others at arm’s length. The push and pull of wanting connection while fearing what it costs.
Relationship with yourself
The internal critic that won’t quieten. A chronic sense of not being quite enough. Difficulty knowing what you actually feel or want. Patterns of self-abandonment – putting others first in ways that leave you depleted.
Attachment and early experience
When something in childhood – the emotional availability of a parent, early loss, the atmosphere you grew up in – has left a mark on how you relate now. This work isn’t about blame. It’s about understanding the patterns you learned and beginning to have more choice about them.
Feeling stuck
Sometimes people arrive knowing something needs to change but unable to name exactly what. That’s a completely legitimate place to start. Often the work begins precisely there.
Ready to find out more?
The first step is a consultation session. No obligation, just a chance to see if working together feels right.