Relationship therapy

Relationships are often the most meaningful parts of our lives and as a result, some of the most challenging.

Most couples come to therapy because they care deeply about each other but feel caught in patterns they can’t shift. Conversations loop into the same arguments, one partner withdraws while the other pushes to talk, or small disagreements quickly lead to distance and criticism. Over time, this can leave one or both partners feeling hurt, angry, or shut down.

Many couples recognize these patterns but feel unable to change them alone. Therapy offers a space to slow these moments down and look at what is happening beneath the surface.

How I Work

My approach to relationship therapy reflects the same integrative way of working that underpins my individual practice. Together, we explore both what is happening in your relationship now, and the deeper patterns that may be shaping it.

In therapy, we look together at the patterns that emerge between you. Rather than focusing only on the content of an argument, we explore what is happening underneath the surface in those moments of tension, hurt, or distance.

These responses often make sense when we begin to understand the histories each partner brings into the relationship and the ways we have learned, often without realising it, to handle difficult moments like conflict, silence, or disconnection.

My role is not to take sides or determine who is right or wrong. Instead, I aim to create a space where both partners can feel heard, while gently helping you notice the automatic reactions that may be keeping the relationship stuck.

Who this is for

I work with people of all genders, sexualities, and relationship structures.

You might come to therapy as a couple, or individually. Even when one person attends, it is still possible to explore relational patterns and begin to make changes. You don’t need to be in crisis to begin; often, therapy is most helpful when you simply feel that something isn’t quite working, or could feel different.

When One Partner Feels Unsure

It’s common for one partner to feel more certain about starting therapy than the other. You might worry you will be blamed or feel unsure whether therapy will help.

These concerns are understandable. Couples therapy is not about judgment. It is about understanding the loop between you, recognising each other’s experience more clearly, and finding new ways to respond to moments of difficulty. You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what to say.