Couples Therapy & Relationship Therapy

You might recognise some of this. Conversations that go nowhere, no matter how many times you try. One of you wants to talk while the other goes quiet. Something that starts small escalates into something much bigger, and afterwards neither of you is quite sure how it happened. Or a growing sense of distance or loneliness that exists even when you’re together.

Often it isn’t that you don’t know what you feel – it’s that saying it out loud feels risky. What if it makes things worse? What if the other person can’t hear it?

Or perhaps you have said it, many times. Things change for a while, and then slip back again. After a while, it can feel easier not to ask. Or you may find yourself thinking you shouldn’t have to – that if your partner really understood, really cared, you wouldn’t need to.

We look at what is driving these moments – the arguments, the escalations, the things that go unsaid – and what makes it so hard to reach each other. As that becomes clearer, it becomes possible to respond differently and to find moments of connection that may have felt out of reach for a while.

How I Work

We look at what each person brings to the relationship – how you respond to closeness, conflict and disconnection, often without realising it. The past and the present are rarely separate, and understanding both can begin to change how you respond to each other.

Who This Is For

I work with people of all genders, sexualities, and relationship structures.

You don’t need to be in crisis to begin. Many couples come when they notice a growing distance, a recurring dynamic, or a sense that something between them could feel different. Others come after a rupture, a betrayal, or a realisation that things can’t continue as they are.

I also work with individuals who want to explore their relational patterns, even when their partner isn’t ready or willing to attend. When one person begins to understand the dynamic differently and respond in new ways, it can shift the entire relationship.

When One Partner Feels Unsure

It’s common for one partner to feel more certain about starting therapy than the other. You may worry you will be blamed or feel unsure whether therapy will help.

These concerns are understandable. Relationship therapy isn’t about judgement or fault-finding. It’s about understanding what each person brings, what gets triggered, and why – and finding new ways to respond to the moments that have felt impossible.

You don’t need to arrive knowing what to say.