Relationship & Couples therapy

Relationships are often the most meaningful parts of our lives and as a result, some of the most challenging.

Most partners come to therapy because they care deeply about each other but feel caught in patterns they can’t shift. Conversations loop into the same arguments, one partner withdraws while the other pushes to talk, or small disagreements quickly lead to distance and criticism. Over time, this can leave one or both partners feeling hurt, angry, or shut down.

Often it isn’t that partners don’t know what they feel. It’s that saying it out loud feels risky. What if it makes things worse? What if the other person can’t hear it? Or perhaps you’ve said it – many times – and something shifts but then slides back. After a while, it can feel easier to stop asking. Or you reach a point where you feel you shouldn’t have to ask, that if they really understood or really cared, you wouldn’t need to.

Many couples recognise these patterns but feel unable to change them alone. Therapy offers a space to slow these moments down and look at what is happening beneath the surface.

How I Work

My approach to relationship therapy is integrative and informed by specialist training. This means that alongside my background in trauma and somatic work, we explore the ‘dance’ of your connection, looking at both what is happening between you now and the deeper histories that shape how you relate.

In therapy, we look together at the patterns that emerge between you. Rather than focusing only on the content of an argument, we explore what is happening underneath the surface in those moments of tension, hurt, or distance. These responses often make sense when we begin to understand the histories each partner brings into the relationship and the ways we have learned, often without realising it, to handle difficult moments like conflict, silence, or disconnection.

My role is not to take sides or determine who is right or wrong. Instead, I aim to create a space where both partners can feel heard, while gently helping you notice the automatic reactions that may be keeping the relationship stuck.

Who this is for

I work with people of all genders, sexualities, and relationship structures. While many come as a couple, I often work with individuals who want to explore their relational patterns. Whether you are navigating a specific crisis or simply feel that your connection could feel different, relationship therapy is a space for anyone wanting to break free from cycles that no longer serve them.

You may choose to attend as a couple, or individually. Even when one person starts the process, it is possible to gain relational self-awareness and begin making shifts that impact the entire dynamic. You don’t need to be in crisis to begin; often, the most transformative work happens when you simply recognize a desire for more ease and connection.

When One Partner Feels Unsure

It’s common for one partner to feel more certain about starting therapy than the other. You might worry you will be blamed or feel unsure whether therapy will help.

These concerns are understandable. Relationship therapy is not about judgment. It is about understanding the loop between you, recognising each other’s experience more clearly, and finding new ways to respond to moments of difficulty. You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what to say.

Professional Standards

I am a UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist currently completing an Advanced Diploma in Relationship Psychotherapy at the NAOS Institute, working toward specialist accreditation in relationship work.