Relationship & Couples therapy

You might recognise some of this. Conversations that go nowhere, no matter how many times you try. One of you wanting to talk while the other says nothing. Something apparently small escalates into something much bigger and afterwards neither of you is quite sure how it happened. Or a growing sense of distance or loneliness that exists even when you’re together.

Often it isn’t that you don’t know what you feel – it’s that saying it out loud feels risky. What if it makes things worse? What if the other person can’t hear it?

Or perhaps you have said it, many times. Things change for a while, and then slip back again. After awhile, it can feel easier not to ask. Or you may find yourself thinking you shouldn’t have to – that if your partner really understood, really cared, you wouldn’t need to.

We look at what is driving these moments – the arguments, the escalations, the things that go unsaid – and what makes it so hard to reach each other. As that becomes clearer, it becomes possible to respond differently and to find moments of connection that may have felt out of reach for a while.

How I Work

We explore both what is happening between you now and the deeper histories each person brings, because our earliest relationships often shape how we respoind to closeness, conflict, and disconnection in adult relationships, often without us realising it.

In sessions, we look at what’s happening underneath – what gets triggered, how you end up in the same place again, and what each person needs but finds hard to ask for or receive.

My role is not to take sides or decide who is right or wrong. I aim to make sure both partners feel heard, while helping you notice what’s driving the moments that feel impossible to get past.

Who This Is For

I work with people of all genders, sexualities, and relationship structures.

You don’t need to be in crisis to begin. Many couples come when they notice a growing distance, a recurring pattern, or a sense that something between them could feel different. Others come during a more acute moment – after a rupture, a betrayal, or a realisation that things can’t continue as they are.

I also work with individuals who want to explore their relational patterns, even when their partner isn’t ready or willing to attend. When one person begins to understand the dynamic differently and respond in new ways, it can shift the entire relationship.

When One Partner Feels Unsure

It’s common for one partner to feel more certain about starting therapy than the other. You may worry you will be blamed or feel unsure whether therapy will help.

These concerns are understandable. Relationship therapy isn’t about judgement or fault-finding. It’s about understanding what each person brings, what gets triggered, and why – and finding new ways to respond to the moments that have felt impossible.

You don’t need to arrive knowing what to say.